Hi guys, here’s another video from Ka, and I just wanted to jump in and summarize and share some thoughts with you!
It’s been a few weeks since our last video, and as a family we’ve been getting accustomed to life with our new baby girl Sofia. In among the diapers and the feeding we’ve also been able to spend some really awesome quality family time together and just enjoy the summer sun here in Germany.
Ka wanted to send a little inspiration your way, so this video is for anyone looking to become a digital nomad and do what they love online, which is a subject we’re both very passionate about.
So he has 5 tips for you to follow, and I’m going to summarize them here, and really this is aimed at you if you feel your family and / or friends aren’t supportive of your decisions to make the changes in your life that you need and deserve.
We say that if you truly follow your inner voice and do what feels like the right thing to do, very often families and friends won’t be supportive of this. Here’s how you can stand your ground and follow your heart!
1 – Understand that people who don’t have any experience or personal insight with what you’re looking to achieve or want to do in your life, have no place to give you advice, and you have every right to ignore it.
2 – It’s okay for people to disagree with you – you don’t have to go around convincing anyone that you’re doing the right thing for you. Sometimes we have to walk a new path alone.
3 – Always connect with your source. Be passionate about what you want to share with the world, because that’s when you’ll start to make a difference. Turn that into a business and you’ll turn your passion into an income.
4 – You have the right to stand out and be different, and do whatever makes you happy. You don’t have to fit inside a box – be colorful, be you!
5 – Find the strength you need within yourself. Your courage and drive to succeed at whatever you want to do comes from within you – it’s not given to you by other people, and when you take it for yourself, nobody else can take credit for your accomplishments.
Do your thing, do something that matters and change the world!
Love 💕 and Sunshine, Katie
5 TIPS TO FOLLOW YOUR HEART – EVEN IF NOBODY SUPPORTS YOUChris Sundance2020-08-11T08:18:30-05:00
When Ka’s doing something like running one of his free webinars – or posts a YouTube video, we always love seeing so many amazingly positive comments from people who have taken information or ideas away and feel like they want to share their own personal stories or give thanks, which is so awesome, but we also very occasionally get people who simply feel the need to be nasty, and post negative comments – it’s not cool for sure, but also I don’t think those people realize how what they’re doing isn’t helpful for them either, or anyone for that matter… Especially if we follow the policy to treat others how we would want to be treated, or taking that a step further – how we treat ourselves…
Treating others with respect isn’t just an important part of life – it’s absolutely essential, but what I want to talk about with you today is – are you treating yourself with this same respect? So many people focus on trying to make other people happy all the time, but then forget about taking time for themselves, so by the time they get around to thinking about their own happiness, all their energy is gone, and they end up putting off their needs because they simply ‘don’t have the time or energy’ to do otherwise.
Then it just seems like an endless cycle that usually leads to resentment, anger, sadness and depression, that may be expressed towards yourself and others, so really the important message here is that you’ve got to find a way of ensuring that you look after yourself, and take some time each and every day to pursue your own happiness by doing what you love – Ka and I recommend taking a block of time that’s just for you, whether it’s early in the morning before everyone else is awake (we find this works best if you have children), or at some other time that’s ideal for you to really focus in on what truly matters to you.
“Hmmmm, but I don’t know what makes me truly happy….”
I can hear you saying that, and it’s a common question in people who haven’t ever taken the time to sit down and think about their own happiness – and here’s an easy way to determine what makes you really happy. Each day, during the time you’ve put aside just for you, ask yourself really specific questions around your hopes, desires and dreams. By doing this, and committing to it you’ll quickly discover new ways to fulfill yourself emotionally, physically and mentally – all while still having plenty of time to tend to the requirements of your life like business or work, family and the needs of others too. Ka and I wanted to get together and share a few pointers with you on this, so here we go.
FREE YOUR MIND FROM NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
This probably won’t come as a surprise, but the first step toward inner peace and self-awareness is realizing that negative thoughts drain your energy very, very quickly. Questions like, ‘Why is this happening to me?’ ‘Why didn’t I do more?’ or ‘Why didn’t I see this coming?’ only lead to negative answers like, ‘Because you deserve it’, ‘Because you aren’t good enough’ or ‘Because you’re not smart enough’ which are all basically unhelpful responses.
Those negative thoughts repeat themselves throughout the day, making it so difficult for you to focus on the tasks that you need to get done and almost impossible for you to remain in the moment. Please stop thinking that way – I give you permission to be kinder to yourself. Whether you like it or not, what may be considered as ‘bad things’ happen to most of us far more often than we’d like. There’s always more we could have done, and there’s no way to predict everything that could happen. Am I right?
So to deal with that negative thinking, start asking more positive questions like, ‘What am I going to do differently today?’, ‘What am I really thankful for?’, ‘What activities make me feel super happy?’, ‘Who are the people in my life that I trust?’, ‘What am I proud of about myself?’
These are all positive questions that result in positive answers that you can repeatedly reflect
upon and draw constructive energy from throughout your day. These questions give you permission to explore potential life changes and how these changes could positively influence your happiness – simple, but effective. These questions allow you to appreciate what you already have and cherish in your life, as well as ensure you’re focusing on the brighter side of so much more in your future too. Give it a go 😉
THE REAL POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING
Positive thinking can lead you on a seriously more fulfilling journey through life. For example, you may discover that while you enjoy your career, there are other things you want to do that make you extraordinarily happy, so strive to find the time to pursue these things – maybe change your job, start an online business or even downsize by selling or giving away any belongings that feel like they’re weighing you down. You’d be so surprised at what little you need in the way of things to live a happy life – look back at some of Ka’s videos where he shares how we travel very light, and have very few possessions, even for a family of 8 like us – they simply aren’t needed to be happy.
When you consistently think happy, positive thoughts, you’re able to cultivate an abundance of natural energy that’s expressed in every relationship you have and in every facet of your life, not to mention providing you with a surplus of resources to deal with any of life’s problems, should they arise. Having a positive attitude isn’t going to make your issues or sudden emergencies necessarily disappear, but you’ll likely experience far less problems in your life and for anything that does actually come up, such times will certainly be easier to work through – trust me, I’ve been there 😉
Doing what you love everyday and feeling happy will positively influence practically everyone around you. Newsflash, most people want to be around happy people, but that’s not really much of a surprise, is it? This is why you need to set firm boundaries with people whenever possible so you always have enough time and energy to focus on them – and on yourself too. Saying ‘No’ to another person’s request isn’t a crime, so chill out – the real crime is not putting the time into carving out a happy life for yourself so you can do what you love, every single day. Think about it…
CONSISTENCY IS KEY
Create a daily ritual (we love these!!) to sit and ask yourself really positive uplifting questions and remember to keep a journal to hold onto your thoughts – this could be a written journal or something on your phone, it’s all good. Negative thoughts will for sure creep in – they do for Ka for sure, and myself sometimes too, but I suggest you consciously try to stop negative thoughts from running through your mind and when you feel one coming on, switch it out for a positive question or image instead.
So there you have it, the simple answer is to change negative thoughts to positive ones to maintain a sense of peace and happiness, so you can grow as a person, have an abundance of energy, contribute to the lives of others so much more and truly give yourself the best chance possible at achieving your dreams.
Love 💕 and Sunshine, Katie
ARE YOU ASKING YOURSELF THE RIGHT QUESTIONS?Chris Sundance2020-08-11T08:18:27-05:00
A wise man once said (umm…hang on, I bet this was probably said by a woman!) 😉
“If we only used all this knowledge that we already have, we probably wouldn’t have to learn anything new at all!” This is how I see it: life is simple. And so are the solutions for our problems. This becomes even clearer, when we take the time to look at our main problems and realise, that we already have all the solutions for them – in fact, we’ve had them for years. You know exactly how to lose weight. Eat a bit less, eat healthier and exercise. You also know how to be happier in your job. Apply for a different role that you really enjoy, or start your own online business. Quit your current job and never look back. We know all of this already but we sabotage ourselves and end up just not getting these things done. Oftentimes we are so obsessed with taking this new course, finally doing more studies, or reading yet another book to get ahead in life. Our attitude is never in the here and now and not about who we really are. We completely forget that it is NOT the new course or the training that will suddenly, miraculously turn everything around for the better.
It’s a bit like the donkey with the carrot and I want to help you stop this vicious circle and do something small, yet very very powerful. Here’s my little inspiration for you today to get you started: What is the one small thing, that you can do TODAY to take yourself closer to your goal? What is the one small thing you keep avoiding that keeps you so busy avoiding it, you’re not even able to begin? This is the solution. It is not that new, great big course tomorrow, but the small, seemingly meaningless step you take today! You do know what to do but if you’re still feeling that you are not going anywhere and you keep on sabotaging yourself, don’t get disheartened, re-read the blog, listen to the video again and remember it takes only a small step a day.
THAT’S HOW YOU FINALLY STEP INTO ACTION TO REACH YOUR GOALSChris Sundance2020-08-11T08:18:42-05:00
You might have noticed how my year started and are seriously wondering why!
I went to this Buddhist silence retreat all by myself, where I was also fasting for the entire time. “Whaaaat?? But why?” you’re probably asking right now. Why would you go into a cold concrete cell without a mattress voluntarily, and submit yourself to a super strict timetable from 4am in the morning until 9pm at night, which forces you to sit completely still, cross-legged in one spot for the entire day?
And why on top of all, would you take a vow of silence, fast for the entire time and give up any contact to the outside world (which includes books, music, movies, internet and computers)?? Sounds pretty strange, huh?
Let me tell you why I did that: On the one hand, to really calm down, to better understand myself and to gain new deeper insights. But to be really honest, I also did it to prepare for my death.
The inconvenient truth that we try to escape from as much as we can, is: Everything will be taken away from us. All our belongings, all of the beloved people in our life, our precious health, and finally our body. We are all going to die. Every single one of us, without any exceptions. If we can accept this fact and understand that this could literally happen every single day, our perspective changes dramatically!
Suddenly we will come to realize that our dreams cannot wait, that our life has to be lived TODAY and that we have to reconcile with loved ones and our family in order to find peace. I hope you put aside some time to watch this very special video where I talk about all that and a lot more, to give you the uncensored version of all the experiences I was able to gain during my retreat, so you can obtain clear tools that will help you make your life more beautiful.
You’ll notice I am speaking unusually slow in this video, I recorded it right after breaking my silence, after I had not eaten anything for 14 days and had not been sleeping for more than 2 hours each night, due to the high-energy levels I had acquired. Have patience, forgive me for my slowness and embrace what I share with you.
3 THINGS I’VE LEARNED FROM 10 DAYS FASTING AND SILENCEChris Sundance2020-08-11T08:18:54-05:00